As you may have noticed, though clearly disappointed, I'm trying to get on with business as usual post-Oscars. I have my "history ofs..." to write, my countdown to do, etc... But I'm still getting lots of mail from people mortified and angry about the Brokeback Mountain's loss on "Black Sunday" (Oscar Night). I can't answer all these e-mails personally so I'll suggest two things for those who are still seething or sad. (And then we all really must leave the Mountain behind us --though it certainly stays in our hearts --since there's a new film year to enjoy just kicking off).
1. You can donate to a great campaign [click here to see] --which is an advertisement set to run in Daily Variety tomorrow. Dave Cullen's site has already collected thousands of dollars from devastated fans. The ad thanks Ang Lee and everyone involved. It also details a laundry list of Brokeback's unprecedented awards success (up until March 5th that is). It's very pointed and telling without being disrespectful. If you can make a donation, you might feel better at having done something outside of just crying / throwing things / complaining.
2. Don't keep it to yourself when you see/hear/read homophobic remarks, legislation, media players, etc... Get active politically, verbally, socially. We all, straight gay whatever, put up with way too much. Call people on their shit. Just as with other civil rights struggles, you don't win any fight by kicking back and pretending it isn't a struggle.
3. Think on this: Yesterday while thinking about Crash I started thinking about the Academy's response to frequent charges of 'racism' over the years and this bitter salve entered my head. The last time they went for a movie dealing with race relations was in 1989 when Driving Miss Daisy won the Oscar. Just remind yourself that Spike Lee's brilliant and critically heralded Do The Right Thing wasn't even nominated in that very same year. You'll feel a little better. In other words --though it's easy to forget when you get caught up in the annual glamorama-- They've always been significantly behind the times. They always will be. Maybe the first best picture winner about gay people will have to be something set in the 80s and arrive in theaters some 20 years after they've found a cure for AIDS? It's just something to think about. They're just not a progressive bunch ---the idealized beauty of George Clooney's speech aside.
p.s. i wrote and published this post without even realizing it was "get over it, day" -fancy that!